In conversation, I share something: an idea, an insight, a thought train, an observation, a theory, a hypothesis, any statement about anything. On average, how do you reply?
Kapha replies with: “Yes, I agree”. Why? Because Kapha prefers communion, agreement, connection, simplicity, cohesion. This kind of reply often carries a degree of emotional harmony, acceptance, comfort. There is an underlying agenda for Kapha to create harmony, security, stability.
Pitta replies with: “Yes but, not quite, I don’t fully agree” or “No I don’t agree because…”. Since Pitta likes to differentiate, dissect, divide, contradict, contrast, digest (reduce to smaller subcomponents), negate (reduce to nothing), expose increased detail and nuance. This kind of reply will often carry a degree of emotional antagonism, non-acceptance, discomfort. There is an underlying agenda for Pitta to create some heat, passion, friction, tension.
Vata replies with: “Yes, it could be. And it could also be this, or that, or even that… but you are maybe right, I’m not sure”. As Vata is very open, flexible, erratic, uncertain, inventive, doubtful, superficial, detached, vague. This sort of reply will often carry a sense of emotional dispassion or lightness, superficiality. There is an underlying agenda for Vata to create some stimulation, enthusiasm, variety, movement.